Thursday, June 9, 2011

As Mike Sees It (3)

Hello again faithful readers of Crowning Victoria! It's been about 3 months or so since I last put together some thoughts for you all and now that we're less than two weeks away from the big day (still a bit surreal to type) Vicki and I figured it was a good time for me to do one last post from the groom-to-be's perspective.

Over the last few weeks, and particularly the last few days, after I tell people how close we are to the wedding date, they almost invariably ask the same thing: "Are you ready?" Three little words that seem like an innocuous question but are often anything but. Because if the question is asking whether I'm ready to actually be married to Vicki then the answer is "absolutely." I know a lot of people get nervous about whether their relationship will change after making it all official, but honestly Vicki and I have been dating for about 7 years and living together for about 6 years (the last 3 or so with just the two of us in a home we jointly own), so while I'm sure on an intrinsic level things will change, on a day to day level I know what I'm getting in to and thrilled about it. Vicki and I work very well together and I don't doubt my love for her or my certainty about marrying her for one second.

But there's another aspect of the question that I have been tending to think about first when this question gets asked: are we ready to actually have this wedding? Because whenever I hear the words "are you ready?" my mind immediately drifts to the many items on my to-do list, the e-mails in my inbox, and all the other details that need to be taken care of. Whenever we've felt like we've accomplished most of what needed to get done there's a new bunch of action items coming at us. I was under no illusions that making this happen would be simple, but I have consistently been amazed by the amount of time and effort required to pull this thing off.

With that being said, now that we count the time to go in days instead of months or weeks, I feel like I can honestly answer the question of if we're ready with a solid yes. That doesn't mean that we've gotten everything taken care of (not by a long shot as my still crowded to-do list can attest). But at this point I know that no matter what happens, Sunday June 19th is going to be an awesome day, one that I will look back on fondly for the rest of my life. All my closest friends and family together in the same room, there to celebrate me and the love of my life; what more can a person ask for? Inevitably something will get forgotten or overlooked but really, whatever it is I'm cool with it. As long as when it's all said and done I get to call the beautiful woman behind this blog my wife then all the rest is just water under the bridge.

That being said the band has been a pain in my a** so they better be worth it. :)

So let's break out those dancing shoes, squeeze into our formal wear, and get hitched. Because not only am I ready; the 19th can't come soon enough!


  1. This post is so sweet and so awesome that I read it to Vince this morning from my phone while we were curled up in kitties and down comforter. I can't wait to be there!!!!!!!!

  2. Aww, I <3 Mike's posts! I got the same question - "are you ready?" And I always answered in two-fold: 1) "Ready to get married? So ready that I'm half tempted to just roll up to the JP & call it a day." 2) "Ready to have this wedding? Uhhhh...."

    Reading this makes me wish more than ever that I could be there. I feel like I've gotten to know Mike from comments on Facebook, stories from Vicki, and his blog posts. I'd like nothing better than to finally greet him in person with a big hug and to tell him thank you for being an incredible part of my amazing friend's life, supporting her as the person she is, and helping shape her into the person she'll become. Even without knowing him, I have this indescribable peace & trust in Mike that he is truly Vicki's other half. And my heart could not be happier. :)

  3. You sound ready to me!
    What a sweet post.
    Wishing you both a lifetime full of love, laughter and happiness...

    .... oh and children, lots of them... c'mon you didn't think you'd get by without hearing that at least once! ;)

    To the 19th and beyond! *Cheers*

  4. This post by Mike, my precious son, reduced me to tears. Tears of joy, love, and utter pride.

    Whoever said men don't show or express emotion in any way, do not know my sons. They have never had any qualms about expressing their true feelings. The way that Mike did just that for Vicki, makes me a proud mother !! :)

    As you, Mike, make this major life's transition from being a single man to a married one, I have all the confidence in my heart that you and Vicki are perfect for each other and that you will always love and respect each other as much as you do now.

    That is what I wish for you both.

    I love you both with all my heart and wish for you what you wish for yourselves.

  5. I'm coming. I have a copy of the invitation. I am coming. lol! :) I wish you two the best, we need to figure out how to keep the blog going, or I will kidnap your wife and make her post on mine. LOL!!!

  6. Barry &amp; ShariJune 9, 2011 at 11:26 PM

    ~ From Renaissance Man your Dad,& Gwenivere Shari~

    The love you share, the friendship you have and the respect & encouragement you give one another is a special gift for a great recipe for a marriage.
    Romance your each other always, and let her know your love in some little way that's you, everyday.
    Share your hearts, encourage your goals & fill your souls and know that as your father,I love you both more then you know.

    We are so very happy and proud of you both. Happiness is not a given, its something found and claimed and cherished.

    Mike & Vicki I wish you serenity and calm into your new journey's as husband & wife together. I only wish to share in both your lives a respectful,caring and loving friendship.Earned in time and good years ahead.I am excited for you both and wish you only the best in your young lives.We're only on this planet for a short time, so enjoy one another, touch others lives as well as your own.Most of all... Titles and labels mean nothing, but just be the good people you are and continue to be. This is what we all try to do. Pay it forward sometimes, and stay true to yourself always. Blessings in health and successes, bring to life your own family,and feel the love a parent feels.
    To LIFE.

    We love you both as only a parent can and we are so proud to share this day with all your friends and family who love you both.
    So let Us Dance.....

    Love your Dad & Shari


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