Can I take a moment to complain, please? Just a quick rant, I promise.
I'm sure I will come off as rude, and so please forgive me in advance.
That aside, let's talk guest list.
More specifically, let's talk invitees.
Yes, there are certain people who need to be invited and certain people who require an invite. People like your parents, your nuclear family, your close-yet-extended family members, are of course invited to your special day. Then there are close friends you always knew would be there. We can go a layer further to your boss (if you're close), your colleagues (again, pending details) and maybe even some outlying friends.
And because weddings are expensive, you wish your budget allowed for more invites and of course wish all 600+ Facebook friends could miraculously receive invites.
But you can't invite everyone.
You just can't.
However, I've encountered a problem. A few "friends" don't understand that everyone's not guaranteed an invite. Maybe it's because they are not privy to all the planning, budgeting, emailing with caterers (what do you mean $10K won't feed 300?) and so on.
But I cannot even begin to tell you about the people, who I hope are kidding, that say things flat out like, "So am I on the guest list?" or my personal favorite "I better be invited!" and even so far to say "I can't wait to come to your wedding" (when you full well know they are not on the invite list).
I can try to see it as flattery, that they want to be a part of our day.
Because no, if you have to ask then you are probably not invited.
Because yes, I wish I could invite you but can't.
Because maybe we are just not that close.
Has anyone else run into this problem?
How do you handle it?